How can I get my Coton to feel comfortable with guests

by Sharon
(USA)

Hi - I’ve got a beautiful 11 month old Coton who I adore. I’ve never been so in love with a dog. She’s so sweet and funny and affectionate. UNTIL someone comes to visit in my home.

Then Miss Congeniality turns into a scary monster. She growls and gets very agitated. She’s not aggressive, but she’s definitely fearful. She’s been socialized and I’ve had a trainer work with her, but she can’t seem to feel safe or settled when anyone is visiting - even visitors like family members who visit often.

I’ve got family (adults and kids) coming to visit for a week at Christmas and I’m concerned that her behavior is going to make everyone on edge.

Does anyone have any ideas to make my little girl comfortable with visitors? It’s funny, but she’s not this way when she meets other people and dogs on walks or anywhere out in public- it’s only in our home.

Thanks

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Dec 14, 2024
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No treats! NEW
by: Maya

These are great suggestions. Don’t forget to let family and friends know not to feed your dog without your knowledge. I had one sick pup on my hands when unbeknownst to me several people were giving her treats - the doggy and human variety. That was not FUN!

Dec 14, 2024
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by: Cyrille

I got rid of every one Percy did not like, he saved me a lots of troubles.

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Tips to help your dog feel comfortable with visitors
by: Gale

I completely understand what you're going through. My Coton, Luc, was the same way - an absolute sweetheart, but very territorial in our home. The great news is that you can absolutely help your dog feel more comfortable with visitors. It might take some time and patience, but the transformation is possible!

Short-Term Tips for Upcoming Visits

If you’re expecting company soon, it’s important to focus on making your dog feel safe rather than expecting immediate changes. Here’s how you can help:

*Let Her Set the Pace . Ask your visitors not to engage with her unless she initiates the interaction. This is key. NEVER force her to interact, as that can make her fear worse. (This is especially important for children, who might not understand a dog’s boundaries.)

*Encourage Positive Associations . Give visitors some of her favorite treats to offer - tossed gently from a distance, not handed directly. Treats can go a long way in building her trust.

*Stay Relaxed.  Cotons are incredibly sensitive to our emotions. If you’re nervous about her reaction, she’ll likely pick up on it. Try to stay calm and positive to help her feel the same.

Long-Term Strategies to Build Confidence
To help your dog feel more at ease with visitors over time, here are some techniques that worked wonders for Luc:

*Make Visitors = Good Thing s. Invite a friend or family member over to sit quietly in your home. While they’re there, offer your dog treats and praise. Start with short sessions and gradually increase the time as she becomes more comfortable.

*Desensitize to Triggers . Many dogs react to doorbells, knocking, or unfamiliar voices. Play recordings of these sounds at a low volume during calm moments. Gradually increase the volume over time, always pairing it with treats or toys to build positive associations.

*Educate Visitors Let your guests know your dog is nervous and how they can help. Ask them to avoid direct eye contact, move slowly, and let your dog come to them when she’s ready.

*Provide a Safe Retreat.  Set up a quiet space, like a crate or a cozy room, where she can retreat if things get overwhelming. Having a place to "escape" can help her feel secure.

*Engage Her Mind . Use her favorite toys, puzzles, or long-lasting chews to keep her distracted during visits. This can help shift her focus away from the new people.

*Celebrate Calm Behavior.  Any time she stays calm and relaxed, reward her with treats and praise. Consistently reinforcing good behavior will help her learn that visitors aren’t something to fear.

Good Luck and let us know how she does!

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